BY JOHN M. OLDHAM, MD Do cat people and dog people have distinctly different personality styles? There’s a lot of opinion out there about this—there’s even a Wikipedia site called “Cat people and dog people.” Then there’s our much-viewed blog from early 2019, “Are You a Cat Person?” I’ve been mulling this over since last […]
BY JOHN M. OLDHAM, MD What is your pattern of change—changing partners, that is? “I meet a man, fix him up and flip him to someone else,” confessed one woman recently in the New York Times. “Some People Flip Real Estate. I Flip Men.” That’s the title of the “Modern Love” piece Kelly Sundberg recently […]
BY JOHN M. OLDHAM, M.D., & LOIS B. MORRIS “Attention is a limited resource, so pay attention to where you pay attention,” said the writer Howard Rheingold. This maxim is a favorite of a theoretical physicist named Michael Goldhaber. He is “the internet prophet you’ve never heard of,” according to New York Times Opinion writer […]
By JOHN M. OLDHAM, M.D. and LOIS B. MORRIS Empathy is a word that crops up a lot this election season. We tie it to the personalities of candidates for public office. We want leaders who can put themselves in our shoes. Who can tune in to what we go through, even without having […]
What is a personality disorder? What’s a personality type or style? How can you tell the difference? What can you do about personality patterns that are causing you–or your colleagues, family, friends–a lot of grief and discomfort? Listen to Dr. John Oldham’s wide-ranging conversation with Dr. Bridget Nash on TherapyShow.com.
BY JOHN M. OLDHAM, M.D. It’s now the spring baseball season, but we’re in an upside-down world in which it’s hard to imagine sitting in a crowded stadium. Anyway, so far we don’t have a choice, since the season is postponed and the stadiums are closed. But in the spirit of the season, I […]
BY JOHN M. OLDHAM, M.D. If you are expecting holiday harmony, you may have to think twice. The family gathering just may not turn out like the Norman Rockwell images of perfect family bliss. Instead, as a Thanksgiving-day op-ed in the New York Times put it, “Make Room at the Table for Difficult People.” Grumble, […]
