BY JOHN M. OLDHAM, MD Feeling empty? Do you feel like your life lacks meaning or purpose? Most people are familiar with such a solid-grey inner experience from time to time. Maybe it can be a motivator to take on some challenges or make changes. But when the emptiness seems to be a frequent […]
BY JOHN M. OLDHAM, MD What is your pattern of change—changing partners, that is? “I meet a man, fix him up and flip him to someone else,” confessed one woman recently in the New York Times. “Some People Flip Real Estate. I Flip Men.” That’s the title of the “Modern Love” piece Kelly Sundberg recently […]
By JOHN M. OLDHAM, M.D. & LOIS B. MORRIS Who’s the right person for you? The mate you already have? The mate you wish had? That question drives a lot of popular online personality tests. Some make it sound so easy: “Answer these three questions about yourself to find your ideal mate.” So many […]
BY JOHN M. OLDHAM, MD Trust is a key weathervane guiding every aspect of our interpersonal world. Just trust me Who is trustworthy and who is not? Who is the one I’m not so sure about, and how do I find out? Am I trustworthy? How often do we say, “Look, I’m going to […]
BY JOHN M. OLDHAM, M.D. & LOIS B. MORRIS No matter how resilient our personality styles may be, we are all susceptible to the radical stress of a year of social isolation. We humans are social animals. Whether we’re naturally outgoing or reserved, we need to be with each other. Adjusting to constraint is hard […]
BY JOHN M. OLDHAM, M.D., & LOIS B. MORRIS “Attention is a limited resource, so pay attention to where you pay attention,” said the writer Howard Rheingold. This maxim is a favorite of a theoretical physicist named Michael Goldhaber. He is “the internet prophet you’ve never heard of,” according to New York Times Opinion writer […]
BY JOHN M. OLDHAM, MD, AND LOIS B. MORRIS How do we know who is trustworthy and who isn’t? That depends on each of us. Trust in a relationship is a two-way street. We need to know how to build trust, to evaluate it, bank it, and share it. Without trust, it is […]
